Dear Flabby...
I have followed your sage advice for years and now need your martial advice please.
My wife of many years has given the ultimatum, stop drinking or we are through.
It seems that 4 beers and 6 or so shots of bourbon each evening is something that she thinks is excessive.
I am not abusive, never miss work, and we have plenty of money in our banking accounts so it couldn't be that.
And I never, ever look at another woman if she can see me doing it.
How do I fix this problem?
signed...
Lost In Love
Dear Lost,
You have certainly come to the right place for help.
And I assure you that we can try to fix her problem - But first, she has to admit that she has a problem.
She probably will not agree to seek counseling for her bad behavior but as her loving husband you must insist on professional help before having her committed to a mental institution. This is what loving husbands do.
Try not to be judgemental. Be supportive.
If all else fails, and you are still madly in love with her, are her friends single and available?
Flabby